This is why I refuse a cell phone.
This is why I'm going to refuse a car.
This is why I refuse many luxury, or among kids these days, "necessary" items that contribute to the overall disconnected"give me" society we live in.
I'm not saying that I loathe said items, I'm not saying that I will never want said items. I will get them when I am capable of aquiring them on my own. I constantly feel like I have to explain why I don't like asking my parents for money to hang out with my friends. Well, let's face it: Even though I am still under the legal age to be considered an adult, I don't like asking people for things. I don't like having to pay people back.
I feel like if I have control of the material items in my life, then I am this much closer to having true freedom to do as I wish.
You know what happened when my cousin made a C on her report card? My uncle took away all of her drawing stuff. All of her books, all of her art equipment. Talk about breaking someone's spirit. Yeah, my parents just give me this look, as if it made them look any better.
Taking away items is an unneffective form of punishment, for it may improve behavior but it will weaken your relationship. Whenever something was taken away from me, it just made me plan more, and work harder so that I would never have to become dependant on my parents. I wouldn't mind being the person who sends thier parents money for holidays and birthdays because they are too busy with their own life to spend the weekend with the family for more than once a year. Paying back every dime I ever unwillingly made them sacrifice to support me. In exchange for paying them back, I would then be able to do what I want, with any of my belongings, and not have to put up with thier bs.
It's a nice thought. Let's hope I can follow through.